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Day 136. ‘Why are you fat?’ That is a low-quality question to a person — to a coachee — who is trying to lose weight. It is not a solution-oriented question... it makes the recipient defensive... it is low-energy question... has a negative vibe... it is a problem-oriented / problem-facing question... it is not exciting... lacks forward-looking possibilities. Another way of asking: ‘What is your reason for wanting to lose weight? How important is this to you?‘ Followed by: ‘Tell me about your typical day.’ Another example of a low quality question: Continue reading